I haven’t been able to venture far from home the last two days….evidence above that my world has been encased in crystal!….even getting out to walk Henry has been impossible, so we are making the best of things with lots off stuffy food balls, cuddle and fetch sessions in the hallways! I saw an interview on the telly yesterday that Oprah did with Thich Nhat Hanh, the profound Buddhist monk, he of the monastery Plum Village in Bordeaux, France, where he was in exile for 39 years and apparently is largely unheard of. I just loved listening to him. He spoke of what he considers the four important mantras for authentic connection. I will paraphrase a bit here but they go like this: ( on a personal note, I just adore his use of the word ‘darling’..from my lips, though , it would be reinterpreted as “darlin”! 🙂
“Darling, I am here for you “ He is speaking of the pureness of simply witnessing another being, in a deeply present wa’)You offer him or her your presence. You are not preoccupied with the past or the future; you are there for your beloved. Your deeply present self is the best you can offer. This is love. Witnessing. Being there.
“Darling, I know you are there and I am so happy” He is speaking of the acknowledgement of another. This creates such deep connection in my mind. You recognize the presence of another being as something very precious. He said, “to be loved means to be recognized as existing”.
“Darling I know you are suffering” This is about leaning in to the moment of someone else’s pain, and just being there. To hold them in your heart. Nothing more, nothing less. Your deepest presence already can bring some relief.
“Darling, I suffer, and I am doing my best to practice”. This is about creating a deep heart connection even through pain and asking to be witnessed, without judgement. And asking for help, allowing another to explain their hurts, their anger. Its about turning towards someone when there is pain, rather than turning away. Its about removing the obstacle between your self and the other person, rather than looking to punish them, or suffering alone in silence. I think this takes bravery. Big bravery.
Big stuff to ponder. Such outwardly simple rules of engagement, yet we truly have to practice to put them into action…
While I am on the subject of being deeply present, I want you to know that I am having a bit of a solstice celebration!….just for you… you have have witnessed me up till now, and who will be witnessing and walking with me towards the light of the coming year! A deep bow of gratitude for you all. Namaste, in love and light and truth. Deep truth.
I am deeply honored to embellish your soul! xo K